Mindful Steps

1. I face reality. I recognize that I cannot control my partner’s actions, and this has serious consequences for our relationship and my well-being.

2. I understand that I cannot force change through willpower. I need to navigate my own healing journey with patience and allow myself grace in this process.

3. At different moments in the day or night, I take a mindful pause to respond to my feelings and experiences calmly and effectively.

4. I examine my life with honesty, searching for patterns in how I have been relating to my partner and others.

5. I explore these patterns and share them with a trusted person, noticing the healing power of compassionate listening.

6. I recognize how these patterns have been my way of coping with feelings of betrayal and fear.

7. I learn to accept the vulnerability that comes with facing life’s pressures and uncertainties.

8. I explore alternative behaviors and rehearse them in safe settings to respond to challenging situations differently.

9. I apply these new mindful behaviors in my everyday life and offer sincere apologies to those I have hurt, except when it would be counterproductive.

10. I continue to pay attention to the causes and effects of my actions, making adjustments as needed.

11. I create regular space in my life for mindful reflection, allowing a sense of meaning and purpose to emerge.

12. My life reflects a growing sense of respect and compassion for myself and others, and I share this process with others who maybe struggling.