Practical Steps

  1. Recognize the emotional cycle you're stuck in.

    Example: "I’ve been feeling trapped in anger and sadness, constantly checking my partner’s phone, yet I know this isn’t helping me heal. I need tools to break free from this destructive cycle."

  2. Believe healing is possible, with the right support and self-care.

    Example: "I’ve seen others recover from betrayal, and with the right support from friends, therapy, or support groups, I can build trust in myself again."

  3. Focus on your own recovery and what you can control.

    Example: "I can’t control my partner’s recovery, but I can control how I set boundaries, practice self-care, and heal at my own pace."

  4. Write down your feelings, fears, and ways the addiction has affected you.

    Example: "I’m going to list the ways I’ve been hurt, like feeling lied to or abandoned, and the fears I have, like being betrayed again."

  5. Share your thoughts with a trusted person who can support you.

    Example: "I’m going to talk to a close friend or therapist about everything I wrote down, so I’m not carrying it all by myself."

  6. Identify unhealthy patterns you’ve developed.

    Example: "I’ve realized I’ve been shutting down emotionally and lashing out in anger. These are responses that aren’t serving me well."

  7. Begin practicing healthier habits and responses.

    Example: "Instead of shutting down, I’ll start journaling my feelings or talking to a trusted person when I’m overwhelmed. I’ll also practice self-compassion by giving myself grace to feel hurt."

  8. Consider ways to make amends for any unhealthy reactions.

    Example: "I’ve reacted out of hurt by yelling or withdrawing. I want to apologize for those moments when I lost control, while still holding onto my boundaries."

  9. Make direct amends where appropriate, without causing further harm.

    Example: "I’ll talk to my partner about how I’ve reacted, but I’ll make sure it’s in a calm and thoughtful way, without reopening old wounds unnecessarily."

  10. Reflect daily and continue improving your emotional responses.

    Example: "I’ll check in with myself each day to notice how I’m feeling and see if there are any moments where I need to correct my actions or reactions."

  11. Incorporate mindfulness practices, like meditation or journaling.

    Example: "I’m going to start meditating for 10 minutes each morning, focusing on my breathing and letting go of stress, or I’ll journal each night to release any pent-up emotions."

  12. Stay connected to healthy people and reach out to others who might be struggling.

    Example: "I’ll keep surrounding myself with supportive friends, maybe even joining a support group, and be supportive of others in the group who might be struggling with their journey.”

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