So, you’ve made it this far in the recovery process, and now you’re hitting a big ol’ brick wall: your partner is still lying or avoiding that full disclosure in therapy. Sound familiar? Yeah, welcome to the not-so-glamorous world of addiction recovery.

Let’s be real for a second—it’s frustrating as heck. You’re doing everything you can to move forward, heal, and trust again, but your partner is still stuck in their patterns. And here’s the kicker: this isn’t the real them. This is the addict talking—the part of them that’s tangled up in shame, guilt, and all the “yuck” that comes with owning up to their actions. It’s like there’s a battle going on inside them, and the side that wants to avoid the truth is winning (for now). But don’t worry, this is part of the process. They’re still at the beginning stages of recovery, and unfortunately, that means there’s a lot of stumbling along the way.

So, you’ve found yourself on this wild ride called partner of a sex addict. I get it. It’s not the fun rollercoaster you signed up for—more like the one where you’re hanging upside down for way too long, and your ice cream is about to make a second appearance. And now you’re supposed to work the first step, "We admitted we were powerless over sexaholism—that our lives had become unmanageable." Powerless? Unmanageable? Sounds like a bad day at IKEA trying to assemble a bookshelf without instructions.